Dear Black Women

Recently a friend signposted me to a youtube channel called the grapevine and I watched a particular video on interracial dating.

It was particularly eyeopening to the black female experience and opinion on interracial dating. Now I am a white person in an interracial relationship of 5 years. He was my friend and best friend for a year leading up to us getting into a committed relationship. I want to be sensitive of the black community experience and do not seek to invalidate anyones experience or opinion....in fact I want tackle the stereotypes of black and white women.

It has become clear through watching the videos that there seems to be a stereotype that black women have to battle with more than white women. That they are not submissive. Let me firstly say to my black sisters and queens. . . Well screw the men who even care about that. My heart is heavy and I want to help.

We are in 2018 people...why should any race of woman be "submissive" to be dateable. I can tell you that my boyfriend cannot be dating outside of race for that reason because I give him normal relationship headaches all the time. For full disclosure he gives me as many relationship headaches so its a good job we love each other lol.

Let me just tell you all something now, women should not even be pitted against each other like that because black women are beautiful and amazing souls and they should never have to feel any kinda way bout themselves where they are compared to white women. I love you all and respect you all, and let me use my shitty white privilage to uplift you.

I cannot tell black men how to think or be because they are living the black experience too. But i just want to tell you why I admire black women.

1. They are strong independent women who have to statistically fight harder in the system than any other category in society. We need to respect their struggle and stand in awe at what they have to do to achieve, and yet they still have beautiful hearts. If they are feeling a bit wounded dont use that as an excuse to date white women.....thats not cool and even as a white woman myself i dont want someone who can't be feminist and respect all women.

2. Regardless of race we are human beings and souls with the capability to love. Race does not define our personalities and if you say there aren't submissive women in the black race, and white women are submissive....again you got us women misunderstood. As i have already said i can give HEADACHES all day every day, and my bestest friend and sister from another mister who is black is the kindest most thoughtful, and quiet soul you will ever meet.

I just want to hold my sisters up and just know I got you. If you need me to give a man stress for you....I'm down lol.

But on a more serious note, I am also wanting to understand, learn, and help change society in the way you need it to change. If you think I got this wrong....talk to me.....make me know. Its all love.

When its love....were all doing something right.


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